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Friday, January 23, 2015

Gloria J Zucaro's "Too Much to Comment"

Although I worked on both of my unfinished projects from last weeks blog, I received sad news this week about my mother and just seemed to be drained of energy.  My mother 93, was in the hospital from Thursday until Monday evening when she was taken back to the nursing wing of the retirement residence where she lives.  After 2 CAT scans and 2 MRI's we had not been told much.  Finally yesterday afternoon, her doctor called my brother who lives not far from her, and said she has a tumor on her kidney which is cancerous and it has spread to her lungs...hence all the coughing she has.  She refused chemo, radiation or surgery, stating "It is silly at this age".  She told me she is not in any pain at all.  I am planning on going to see her this next week, and to relieve my brother who lives near-by.  We both feel in limbo because the doctor has not told my brother who has the Power of Attorney for health care what her timeline is!  They won't talk to me because of Hippa Laws.  So we don't know, does she have 2 weeks, or 2 years!

I hope you have a better week!  I hope to talk and art again soon.
Gloria

21 comments:

  1. I am so sorry to hear about your mother. I know you and your brother are in emotional pain, Gloria. Most doctors won't give a timeline. When my husband was declining his doctor said that he couldn't give us a time because sometimes the ones he thought would go soon, lasted a long time and vice versa. It was only when the symptoms said: get hospice, that the doctor told me it was less than 3 months. Actually, it was less than 2 weeks before my dh was gone. It is your mother's decision about treatment as long as she is of fairly sound mind. Just enjoy the days, weeks, months, or maybe years ahead. Each day is precious.

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    1. Thank you so much, Faye. I didn't know that they don't usually give a timeline, but understand the reasoning. Yes, I am glad right now that i can see her while she is not in pain and clear minded.

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  2. I am very sorry Gloria. Your mom sounds like a brave soul. Bless her. And you too at this difficult time.

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    1. Thank you so much for your comment and concern, Lisa

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  3. I am so sorry to hear this Gloria... so sad!
    You are in my thoughts!
    xxx
    Susi

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    1. Thank you, Susi. I think right now my imaginings are getting the best of me. When I have some time with her and learn more I can move ahead and as Faye says above, enjoy whatever time is left.

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  4. So sorry about your Mom. God Bless your mom and you as well. Stay strong.

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  5. Gloria I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. I'm glad you will get to be with her now while she is not in pain. Cherish whatever precious time you have with each other. Much love to you both. Hugs...Deb

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    1. Thanks, Deb. I sure will cherish this time and am lucky to have it!

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  6. Father of Lights, bless her and hold her in your love - give them clarity of thought and hope for the future. Hold them in harmony as they go through this. Amen.

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    1. Thank you so much for your thoughtful prayers for my mother and family.

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  7. My thoughts are with you! Hugs, Valerie

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  8. So sorry for your bad news. I have worked in nursing homes and have cared for the elderly for many years so I completely understand her decision. All you can do is take one day at a time and make every single moment count. Thoughts and prayers are with you all, and may your mother be blessed to go in peace and without pain when her time comes.

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    1. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge, Linda. I am so looking forward to the time I will spend with Mom on my coming visit.

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  9. I am so sorry to hear about your mother. I'll keep her and your family in my prayers. May the peace of the Lord be with you, my friend.

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  10. So sorry for your sad news Gloria.

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  11. So sorry to hear this Gloria. I just hope she can stay painfree for the time she has left. Wishing you and your mother and brother courage to deal with this.

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  12. Dearest Gloria so sorry about your mom. I admire her choice to live out her last days with no invasive procedures! In Canada they will give you as much info as you need or want to know. I'm going to private message you!! Sending love and light!

    Big hugs Giggles

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  13. I really appreciate your professional approach. These are pieces of very useful information that will be of great use for me in future.

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